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Thursday, December 22, 2011

Making It Up As I Go Along #489


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So it turns out I basically go an extra week between posts.  Just been too hectic with moving to get much else done.  And that’s quickly followed with Christmas coming upon us.  With this being my first Christmas alone… and away from Newfoundland. 

This is actually the longest I’ve ever been away from home.  I haven’t been back to Newfoundland since last Christmas.  It’s pretty much now been one full year away from it all.  The smell of the sea air as you walk the downtown streets of home… the rocky hills never far from sight… the easy going nature.  A full year away from it.

But even a year away from home hasn’t affected how much I’ve seen my family.  In fact, I may have seen more of mom and dad this year than any other since I moved to Ottawa.

In the summer we had the BC vacation.  Two weeks of all of us.  Mom, dad, Edena, Duff and the girls… it was a highlight vacation.  It’s hard to say how many more times that the seven of us will be together like that.  With Fraser getting at that age where summer jobs may remove her from the equation.

And twice this Fall, mom and dad returned to Ottawa in order to help me move.  The first in September, helping to prepare the old place for going on the market.  The second in mid December, helping me get out of that place and into the new.

Nobody could ask their parents to do what mine willingly offered.  The help they gave financially, and in labour was more than I liked.  But even though I didn’t like them sacrificing so much, I appreciate it more than I could ever say or show. 

I loved my old place in Avalon.  Loved how close it was to a great little urban pond.  And I could get home after a long week and just hibernate in the quiet of the place.

But I had outgrown it.  There was no room to add anything more and I was restricted in several ways.  Storage of my bike meant either the back balcony held it or the kitchen nook did.  Spare tires were always stacked on the balcony.  And those clothes I didn’t want to put in the dryer would make their way onto a rack in the spare room bathtub.

I began longing for a basement.  Looking back fondly on my time living at home, able to venture down underground where the summer was always cooler and TV glowed the room as a fire in the caves of ancient people.

I missed real baths.  Where you could stretch out and soak in hot water.  I had tired of the test tube tub.  Where the only way I could get my chest wet was to hang a leg out over the side.

I missed real barbeques.  The electric grill served a purpose and has been good.  But the idea of going back to a gas barbeque, outside on the ground level began to haunt me.

So when we found a townhouse across from a forest and nearby a new lake, the opportunity was too much to pass up.

And with the decision to go for it, mom and dad became my slaves.  Offering help in many of the costs of moving.  Offering to come and help pack up, clean, and assemble.

My shoulder wouldn’t allow me to screw curtain rod brackets to the walls… dad took over… twice my age and working for hours.

And when I suggested they’d done enough.  That we should take some time for them.  To go downtown or even to do something as small as going for a walk.  Mom pushed on.  Wanting to make sure things were done to her liking before their flight home. 

And on top of it all… with all they have done… the last thing they do before leaving is buy my Christmas gift.  I scoffed at the idea.  Of them doing anything more.  But there it sits atop my sofa.  A painting that has you peering over the trees from a high top peak.  The calm sea under a glowing yellow sky… just before the sun climbs out of the salty depths.

Thanks to my parents, I’m in a home.  With a place to sit for reading or chatting that’s separate from the place the TV dominates.

I have that cool basement, complete with fireplace. 

I have that little yard for the barbeque.

I have a garage where I can work away at those activities I could never do before… and where my car hides away from freezing rain and frosty nights.

I have the tub that makes me ten again.  Considering a rubber ducky and ensemble of aquatic toys.

I have room for the clothes to dry, and room to store things without the need of balconies or corners of spare rooms.

Christmas came early for me.  And although I’ll be at work for the day itself… I’ll feel close to the ones I love and know that I’ll see them soon.  And the next time I am together with my parents, I hope we can relax and just be.  I’ve already slaved them enough for one year.

FRIDAY…
--- Work day shift.  Fairly normal day.
--- Straight from work to the new place to meet Sarah and Matt and figure out things for installing appliances and the TV on the basement wall.  Off to Home Depot for some supplies to get all that done.
--- No TV tonight… so it’s computer time.  Some hockey pool stuff and some Netflix on the laptop before bed.

SATURDAY…
--- Up too early as the roofers are banging around above me at 8:20 in the morning. 
--- Help Matt a little with my place and do some running around with that… Home Depot and bringing some boxes back and forth.
--- Night shift is quiet and I’m exhausted by 6:00 AM Sunday.

SUNDAY…
--- Up around 10:30.  Over to the new place and do some work there for much of the day.
--- Mom and dad arrive this evening.  A bite of supper at Kelsey’s… a tour of the house… and some sitting around.

MONDAY…
--- Busy day around with some shopping for the house… several trips back and forth moving stuff… Phil there to help in the back and forth in the morning… and also physio for me in the early evening.  Bed comes pretty early.

TUESDAY…
--- Move move move.  Movers come… Rogers come… Bell does not (because Bell is useless).  So the majority of the stuff is in the new place but my home telephone is still in the old.
--- Chinese for supper in the new place and we relax some in the evening.  Fairly early to bed as tomorrow will be another busy day.

WEDNESDAY…
--- Very busy.  Driving back and forth from my new place to the old.  Mom and dad basically stationed out of the old spot cleaning and packing stuff up… me loading the car and driving it over… dumping in the garage… and back again.
--- Lawyer visit in there as well and an evening out to the hockey game.  Boston beats Ottawa 5-2 but it’s a pretty entertaining game overall.  Hate what Tim Thomas did to the Canucks but love watching him play.

THURSDAY…
--- Too busy to do my update today… it’s pushed a day or two.
--- Shopping… cleaning the garage… organizing the storage area… curtains up… Christmas tree up… cheque from the lawyer for the selling of the old place (Bois Vert Place and Avalon are no more… although I’ll visit the pond)… Go to bank where my head hurts… lots going on.  But the place is looking good.

FRIDAY…
--- Busy once again.  Some shopping… some returning of items… some physio… a visit with Melissa and Nick… curtain rods put up… more shopping… and a few breaths at about 10:00.
--- Bell are incompetent.  After four days go buy from the first attempt to set up my phone… they try the same thing the second time.  Now they’ll call on Monday to set an appointment for a 4 hour temporary install.  So tempted to switch to Rogers.
--- Got the basement sofa and love seat picked out… be delivered in about a month.  And a new coffee table as well. 

SATURDAY…
--- A bit of mom and dad left in Ottawa.  Get my Christmas gift… a nice painting for the new house… hang some pictures… a quick walk with dad… drop them at the airport… and off to work.
--- After work, supper with Sheila and some TV for the night… my first night alone in the house.

SUNDAY…
--- Night shift.  I’m exhausted by the end of it but it’s a quiet night and I don’t need to be too alert most of the time.
--- Got the garage clean enough for the car.  No more scraping the frost from home.

MONDAY…
--- Second night.  Busier than last night but not too bad.

TUESDAY…
--- Up early with Bell coming.  They’re here almost 5 hours and leave with me connected to a land line.
--- Off to physio and groceries… drive by the old place on the way back.  It’s weird and a little nostalgic going through the neighbourhood.  It was a fine place for a good eight years.
--- Home and find my telephone is dead again.  No dial tone.  Fed up.
--- Also spend much of the evening on my wireless setup.  Moved the modem and stuff from the basement to the main floor and after doing it, I can’t connect with the iPod Touch or iPhone.  After hours of figuring, I reset some stuff and get it back to good.

WEDNESDAY…
--- The phone rings today.  Bell calls to check on things.  The dial tone is back… odd.  They did nothing.
--- Freezing rain day… and I have a car in a garage.  Pretty nice.
--- Dentist as well today and some house work.  Half the office is done… with the filing cabinet being organized and some boxes emptied.  Cut up boxes in the garage too… lots for recycling.

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